Naughty or Nice List: Divorce Edition
December 19, 2025
A Holiday Reflection on Healing, Habits & How You’re Really Doing
The holidays have a way of amplifying everything—our joy, our stress, our loneliness, and our healing.
If you’re navigating divorce, this season may feel even more complicated. You might be grieving what isn’t the same anymore, trying to hold it together for your kids, or simply trying to get through each day without shutting down.
And because emotional healing isn’t linear (and certainly not tidy), this time of year can also be an opportunity to pause, reflect, and gently ask:
“How am I coping… really?”
Introducing:
The Naughty or Nice List—Divorce Edition.
No shame. No judgement.
Just helping you notice your patterns, celebrate your growth, and lovingly redirect yourself where needed
The Nice List: Healthy Divorce Behaviors & Coping Skills
The habits that support you, steady you, and help you heal. (These are the gifts you give yourself.)
✔️ Practicing Self-Care
Prioritizing your physical, emotional, and mental health through rest, exercise, and mindfulness.
✔️ Setting Boundaries
Saying no when needed and protecting your energy from toxic interactions.
✔️ Seeking Support
Joining a support group, working with a divorce coach, or leaning on friends and family for emotional support.
✔️ Communicating Respectfully
Keeping discussions with your ex-partner civil, especially when kids are involved.
✔️ Focusing on Growth
Taking time to reflect, learn, and grow from the experience of divorce.
✔️ Practicing Gratitude
Recognizing and appreciating the positives in your life.
✔️ Maintaining a Routine
Creating structure to bring stability and purpose.
✔️ Staying Present
Not dwelling on the past or catastrophizing the future.
✔️ Seeking Professional Help
Working with a therapist or counselor to navigate complex emotions.
✔️ Celebrating Small Wins
Acknowledging progress and noticing the steps you take toward rebuilding your life.
If you’re already doing some of these, even if imperfectly, keep it up!
The Naughty List: Unhealthy Divorce Behaviors & Coping Skills
No shame. No judgment. Just awareness. These are the habits that drain your energy and keep you stuck.
❌ Using Children as Pawns
Putting kids in the middle of disputes.
❌ Excessive Negativity
Focusing only on blame or resentment.
❌ Isolating Yourself
Avoiding support, withdrawing, or shutting down.
❌ Substance Abuse
Using alcohol, drugs, or numbing behaviors to cope.
❌ Revenge-Seeking
Acting out of spite to hurt your ex emotionally, financially, or socially.
❌ Avoiding Responsibilities
Ignoring financial, legal, or emotional tasks that need attention.
❌ Rushing Into a New Relationship
Jumping into something new before you’ve had time to heal.
❌ Catastrophizing
Assuming the worst about your future.
❌ Neglecting Your Health
Overworking, under-sleeping, overeating, or abandoning your needs.
❌ Refusing to Let Go
Clinging to hopes, memories, or patterns that prevent forward movement.
If you see yourself in some of these, you’re human. Divorce is overwhelming. Awareness is the first step toward change.
A Loving Reminder
Nobody is all naughty or all nice during divorce—especially during the holidays.
You’re doing the best you can with what you’ve been handed.
What matters is noticing your patterns and choosing, even in the smallest ways, to move toward healing, steadiness, and self-compassion.
This season, may you give yourself:
- Grace for the hard days
- Credit for the brave days
- Support for the lonely days
- And permission to step into a version of yourself you’re proud of
If You’re Ready for Support…
The holidays can intensify everything you’re feeling. You don’t have to go through it alone.
My Rebuild & Blossom Divorce Support & Recovery Group is a safe, supportive space for women navigating divorce who want clarity, connection, and emotional relief.
If you’re looking for guidance, grounded strategies, and a compassionate community that understands—this is for you.
You may also join my private Facebook Divorce Support Community
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You deserve support. And you deserve to feel hopeful again.
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