“All great beginnings start in the dark, when the moon greets you to a new day at midnight.”
― Shannon L. Alder
It is one of the most destabilizing life events. According to various studies divorce is the SECOND most stressful experience that any adult will experience in a lifetime – followed only by the death of a spouse/loved one. (Marriage, by the way, came in at number 7 on the Holmes-Rahe Scale).
Divorce is, in fact, a bereavement process on many ways. There are many losses besides the obvious divisions of assets, finances, and time with kids.
The feelings of loss can go much deeper –
into the murky waters of the unknown.
And what people don’t know can cause much greater fear and stress than what they do know…
But you are certainly not alone.
About 40-50% of married couples will divorce. The rate is higher with subsequent marriages. The United States has the third highest divorce rate in the world. *
As a person impacted by divorce, you are certainly not alone even if you may sometimes feel alone. You certainly don’t have to be.
*I could never leave you hanging. Number two is Belarus and #1 is The Maldives according to a 2018 article by the American Psychological Association)
"The best way out is always through."
- Robert Frost
It is possible to make it out of the dissolution of a marriage not only surviving but also thriving. As your Divorce Coach, I will support, guide and help you through every stage. If you are just beginning to contemplate divorce, are in the middle of the process or you are living your new life after divorce, I can help you can gain the clarity, confidence and courage to move forward in your journey.
Divorce overwhelms everything. Emotions intensify. Change is everywhere. The fear of the unknown prevails. Decision making affects the legal process, property and assets, parenting issues. Managing your emotional journey through divorce will have the greatest impact on the legal and financial outcome of your divorce. You must be clear on your desired outcome. the decisions you make during this time will affect the rest of your life so gathering information is critical. The overwhelming nature of divorce can challenge your cognitive abilities.
As a Divorce Coach, I help you in all of these areas. I help you help yourself. Divorce Coaches provide guidance as you sort through your thoughts and emotions, help you utilize your problem solving skills and prepare you mentally for the roller coaster of emotions.
As your divorce coach, I’m your thinking partner, your sounding board and will give you non-judgmental guidance.
When we first meet, we will talk about your current situation and identify what your biggest concerns are right now.
Then we will look at what obstacles you are facing, what challenges you anticipate and we will consider all of your options.
We will sort through your emotions, so that you are able to make the best possible decisions for your future.
We will walk down the path together and the I will help you take small steps and set manageable goals, so the process doesn’t feel so overwhelming.
With increased clarity and focus, you will be able to move forward with more confidence and courage.
I’ll be there to support, encourage, and sometimes challenge you.. and celebrate our successes together. All within an understanding, non-judgmental and patient environment that nurtures you as an individual and fosters feelings of safety and support.
Because I do not dispense legal advice, we are not bound by geographical location. I meet with my clients via phone calls or video chat. So there are no limitations to where clients are located.
Please contact me for a complimentary consultation. email@example.com
“Divorce coaching is a flexible, goal-oriented process designed to support, motivate, and guide people going through divorce to help them make the best possible decisions for their future, based on their particular interests, needs, and concerns."
-The American Bar Association
Divorce is a stressful time filled with emotional questions and lots of uncertainty – Where will I live? Will my children be ok? Will I have enough money? With whom will my kids live? Who can I turn to for legal help? What will my life look like after my divorce?
You probably feel frightened, overwhelmed, even out of control.
However, you do have more decision making power and outcome control than you may believe. The answers to these questions can be driven by the decisions you and your spouse negotiate and decide on together. Collaborative Divorce honors self-determination and every decision is made jointly by you and your partner.
The thought of going to court and being at the mercy of a judge to make decisions for your future, as well as your families future can be daunting. Collaborative Divorce is a method of getting divorced without a courtroom battle. It is an alternative to traditional litigation.
Divorce has three main components or factors – legal, financial and emotional. Collaborative divorce is a team approach which deals with all 3 aspects of a divorce collaboratively. The focus is on problem solving and recognizing that you and your spouse have a shared problem. What parenting goals do we share? How can we best work together to meet those goals?
The Collaborative Divorce process is a supportive, team-based approach. All parties agree to work together. You will each have your own legal representation, and typically share a neutral financial advisor as well as a neutral divorce coach. These professionals are collaboratively trained. Advisors such as mortgage lenders, real estate and insurance agents can support you as needed as well.
As a divorce coach in this process, I am a neutral professional. I help the parties manage their emotions, stay on task, focus on goals, and optimize communication. The goal is an atmosphere of respect and positive negotiation. It is based on a commitment to resolve all issues without going to court. The process aims to empower you to make sound, long-lasting decisions for the benefit of you and your family for years to come.
For more information about Collaborative Divorce and to find trained and dedicated professionals in the New Jersey area, please visit https://www.jsclg.org/
For a detailed overview of the collaborative process and a list of professionals, visit the International Academy of Collaborative Professionals.
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My goal is to provide open, confidential and convenient communication with my clients. I offer my counseling and coaching services "virtually" via voice, video and chat messaging. In addition, I provide face to face sessions in office locations in New Jersey. After our consultation, we can discuss which contact method is the best and most convenient for you.
For the past twenty-five years I have made my career by helping people.
Helping people is my passion.
Helping people help themselves is my joy.
With a Master’s degree in Counseling and Education, NJ State Licensing as a Professional Counselor, Certifications as an Integrated Wellness and Life Coach, Divorce Coach, Divorce Mediator, and numerous other certifications in the fields of counseling, coaching and education as well as over two and a half decades of experience, I still love what I do – empowering people to reach their full potential.
My varied experience has always led me to helping people understand and manage their emotions. I am empathetic and supportive, non-judgmental and intuitive. I help people recognize their personal strengths and draw upon their resiliency especially when dealing with challenges and obstacles. I help clients stay grounded, focused and in control during difficult times. I support individuals in clarifying their thoughts for improved communication and greater confidence. In addition, I assist people in reducing stress, anxiety and uncertainty in multiple areas including relationship issues, family and parenting concerns and career options.
Recently, in response to a growing number of clients impacted by divorce, as well as going through my own very painful divorce and associated transitions, I became a Certified Divorce Coach. I have expanded my practice to meet the unique needs of individuals experiencing the dissolution of their marriage. I specialize in working with stay at home moms dealing with divorce. I assist individuals in all phases of transition manage the overwhelm and gain clarity to make the best possible decisions with no regrets. There is a light at the end of the tunnel.
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