Spring into New Beginnings

I live in the beautiful and quirky beachfront town of Asbury Park, New Jersey.  The “City by the Sea”.  March is a strange month here.  Mother Nature is very confused and can’t seem to make up her mind or commit to a season.  All types of weather seem to tumble and jumble around. 

Spring in New Jersey reminds me of divorce – uncertainty, confusion, and constant changes. Stuck in the whirlwind of unpredictability, never knowing what to expect next. Leaving the dark and cold. Yearning for warm sunny days. Transitions and transformations. Endings and beginnings. And all the in-betweens.

Spring: Embracing Uncertainty, Change, and Growth Through Divorce

It is said that “spring comes in like a lion and out like a lamb.”  Ultimately, spring is a season of renewal, a time when the world around us shifts from the starkness of winter to the vibrancy of new life. The days grow longer, the air softens, and buds begin to bloom, often before we even realize the ground has thawed. Spring offers us a valuable lesson to remember during divorce or other challenging life transitions. Just as nature embraces change, we too must find our way through the uncertainties of divorce on the journey of rebuilding our lives.

Divorce, like the transition from winter to spring, can be unsettling. It is marked by endings, uncertainty, and the discomfort of change. The security of what was familiar disappears, and we find ourselves standing at the edge of something unknown. Yet, just as the trees that appeared barren all winter sprout new leaves, we also have the capacity for renewal and growth.

The Uncertainty of Change

Spring doesn’t arrive all at once. Some days are warm and filled with sunshine, while others remind us winter has not fully loosened its grip. Similarly, the process of healing after divorce is not linear. There will be days when hope feels tangible, and others when grief and doubt creep back in. Uncertainty can be distressing, but it is also where possibility lives. When we learn to sit with discomfort instead of resisting it, we open ourselves to transformation.

Growth in the Midst of Transition

Spring reminds us that growth often happens beneath the surface before we see visible changes. Hidden Hope. The same is true for personal growth after divorce. Healing begins in the quiet moments—when we set boundaries, rediscover our strengths, and start envisioning a future that is truly ours. It’s in the small choices we make each day, from seeking support to embracing new routines, that we begin to step into our next chapter with clarity and confidence.

Cultivating a New Beginning

Just as gardens require care, patience, and the right conditions to flourish, so does our personal healing. As a divorce coach, I help individuals nurture their new beginnings by guiding them through uncertainty and change with clarity, confidence, and courage. Divorce does not define you, and the pain of divorce does not define the future.  It is merely the soil from which something new can grow.

This season, practice embracing the lessons of spring. What parts of your life need tending? What beliefs or patterns are you ready to shed like the weight of winter? Where can you plant seeds of possibility, even if you don’t yet see the blooms?

Remember, growth is happening, even when you can’t see it yet. Trust the process, embrace the transition, and know that, like spring, your own renewal is already on its way.

As a divorce coach, one thing that I always tell my clients is that “Every Ending is a New Beginning”.  Remember that even though it may not seem like it now, warm, sunny days are ahead.

If you’re looking for support, reach out.

Go Through.  Get Through.  Grow Through.  Blossom.

If you live in a location where you don’t have changing seasons, here is a sample of my weather this week (this is a milder week).